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Old 01-23-2014, 08:29 PM   #1
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D.I.Y. divorce?
Has anyone ever used one of the diy websites? I really don't know what to think about attempting this. We are pretty much in agreement about splitting assets and debts 50/50. Kids are grown. Neither wants a fight about "stuff". Soooo... thoughts?
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Old 01-24-2014, 05:39 AM   #2
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Hi, Check with the local courts where you live to see if they have the appropriate forms and instructions for you to file your own divorce. Good luck to you.

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Are we talking about a lot of money or debt?

If so, it might be worth paying a lawyer a few hundred dollars to look over the papers. BTW, it's not unusual for a divorce to start out amicable. I hope that yours ends that way.
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it might be worth paying a lawyer a few hundred dollars to look over the papers.
Yes, including any retirement funds that you would need to split.

An acquaintance of mine did her own divorce. She said that she couldn't afford an attorney, and she knew that her husband was not going to contest anything. She opted out of child support for their two older teenagers since he was not employed. She went to her county courthouse and used an appointed legal person who instructed her as to how to fill out the forms. They sold their house and split the small profit; she said that was their only major asset.
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Old 01-24-2014, 05:16 PM   #5
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At least talking to a lawyer to make sure that everything is being done correctly is good advice.

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Old 01-24-2014, 05:21 PM   #6
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Are we talking about a lot of money or debt?

If so, it might be worth paying a lawyer a few hundred dollars to look over the papers. BTW, it's not unusual for a divorce to start out amicable. I hope that yours ends that way.
A lot of debt. Selling the house and paying everything off would "maybe" leave us a couple thou each... depends on what the house sells for.
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Old 01-25-2014, 09:24 AM   #7
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As, sorry thing turned out this way for you.

One bit of advice I always repeat is: if there is any debt left to divide, make sure you get it in writing from the lender that they release the other person is released from liability. Otherwise you are still on the hook and have to work it out with the ex.

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In a divorce it is important to have everything spelled out in writing in your divorce judgment and or settlement agreement. Good luck to you.

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Old 01-25-2014, 05:35 PM   #9
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Hi standingstill --

If all the bills are paid, there is no retirement to distribute, everybody is in agreement, maybe DIY makes some sense. Put the house on the market, liquidate, get some papers, and get his signature on them.

Don't wait on it. You might have a shot at that rare animal, an amicable divorce.
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If you can have an amicable divorce that is the best for everyone. Good luck to you.

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