Isn't it Friday again?

[CheroCreek]

I waited all morning but no one put up the Friday topic. What's da' matter you? do I have to do everything myself. :)

More work around the house and hopefully the last of the Christmas shopping. I hope to put up some lights and the like.

Oh yes, sex! ;)

[steamy]

I was just about to do start one about how fridays are about procrastination, certainly not sex for me. I have so much school work due, christmas cleaning, middle & 3 friends will be here tomorrow for the weekend, have to bake cookies, phone calls & report for CASA case,...also have horse & extra dog sitting over the weekend, driving to get youngest Sunday, Monday middle is getting his wisdom teeth out...I have got to get moving!!!!
....think I'll turn over :0)

[CheroCreek]

No sex for me either. That is not until I see a certain tiger I know but that will be some time down the line. :)

[Phoebe]

You must be in a different time zone than me. You get here faster than me to start up trouble, Chero!!!

Isn't sex overrated? What about chocolate?

[CheroCreek]

Hmm . . . chocolate and sex are pretty much equal for many. I know a few wgo wouldn't know which one to choose. :)

[poolman]

I think I'm getting too old for sex as well as delivering firewood. :)

[CheroCreek]

Phoebe, I'm in EST zone. I'd like to keep it that way as far as the "standard" part of it is concerned. I hate DST as an unnecessary and foolish practice.

Pool, maybe it's time for Levitra or maybe we could be like Bob and get some of that Emzyte. :)

[realmom]

TOO OLD FOR SEX??? wow what universe are you in Pool..lol

we are doing the last of our christmas shopping also and getting the house ready for baking.... have alot of baking to do and also fitting in time for just me and my darlin is a priority in life now...

hope everyone has a wonderful weekend...and a wonderful Merry Christmas and Happy New Year

[lexicon]

What's better than sex? Honestly? What is better than sex? While you all ponder that question.... Course one isn't as great with out the other. Oh gessh, there are no easy answers on this planet.

Hoping everyone is happy on DOL just 10 days prior Christmas Eve.

[CheroCreek]

Swamp Cabbage? :)

[lexicon]

lol lol lol...in a given instance,...maybe chero:D

NO, that's not it.

[OnSolidPath]

Sleep. Sleep, glorious undisturbed sleep.

[lexicon]

Now, I can identify with that one OSP.

Still, at least by my evaluative standars, nope,...not it.

[Tiddly]

hmmmmmmmm it is Friday!

[zuzuzu]

I'm in my second weekend post SO breakup and doing reasonably well.... I'm going to indulge in self-care and appreciation for all the things I have (and be thankful to reduce the stress that had been in my life for so long that it began to feel "normal").

Yes, folks, for all those who thought I'd never do it... I have done it. I finally looked truthfully at the things that were causing me pain, realized I couldn't change it, decided I couldn't live with it. And that was that.

Who knew it was so simple.....? Of course, the pain is another thing but this, too, shall pass..... I shall now smile.

[CheroCreek]

(((( ZuZuZu ))))

[Cinnamon Girl]

I'm with you zuzuzu. Bittersweet.
I have a couple errands to run tomorrow, then I'll be cleaning the house, playing with photographs, decorating for Christmas and getting ready for another major winter storm on Sunday. This is the first weekend alone, just me and my daughter (and two dogs, a cat, 12 gerbils)

[poolman]

Bet the cat is entertained by 12 gerbils.

[steamy]

Get out the brushes, my friend :0)

Sorry, for the hurt. Are you close to Purceville? Have some friends there...Round Hill?? I'll meet you at Fair Hill for the races anytime! Big Time HUGS (((((((((You need a horse)))))))))

[zuzuzu]

yup, Steam, first thing tomorrow morning!!! I learned that my sweet mare WAS the horse that pulled the national christmas tree to the White House just last year!! She and her daughter. Her daughter died last December, just weeks after she did that work..... I'm sure that the deplorable conditions at the farm were a factor.

It is criminal that the conditions are so poor.... but I'm there for her now and she is there for ME!! BTW, the Flex is working wonders!

Thank you for the offer to head west.... I'm about an hour away but that's nothing if I'm desperate, right?!? Can't have too much horse therapy!!

[Booktender]

I'm having my hosue professionally cleaned! If you can ever swing it it's worth every penny.

Really, my home. that is not a euphemism for anything else. Girls don't turn me on, despite the Lad's father's fondest wishes.

[ghead1]

Wow, that's a dream of mine. Someday... someone will do all the jobs I hate like dusting, baseboards, windows, and scrubbing the shower.

I have to do it myself, as an advance on Christmas Eve. Can't serve oyster stew in a dirty house!

[poolman]

I don't mind cleaning but I hate doing laundry. Maybe if I did it more than once a month? Yes, I was spoiled as a child and had a maid that would even iron underwear. When I told her she did not have to iron everything she splained that she "was not gonna let her boy go out rough dried". I then had no choice but to give her back her chewing tobacco that I had hidden. I miss that old woman.

[zuzuzu]

I read an article about a woman who took a vacation at HOME! Instead of spending money on a trip, she had her house professionally cleaned so she could be home to enjoy it. She spent money on eating out with friends. Then she read at home, did what she loved to do but didn't have time to do while she was working all the time.

I thought that was just such a cool idea!! I love my home and it would be a joy to just relax in it rather than look at what needs to be done!!

[poolman]

We have a local BBQ restaurant that has shavings on the floor. I like that idea. :))

[Booktender]

The Lad was always glad to help me on Christmas week. I'd tell him "you can't greet your Lord with a dirty house!" and he totally got it Then I'd do it for New Years and Easter too.

I had to make a decision abut my health and sanity and right now it's worth it more to have help than it is to spend the money otherwise. Who knows but at sometime in the future I might be able to do it myself. I'd like that a lot. But this way isn't half bad!

[Booktender]

Other than that infamous trip to Vegas last April I've never had vacation time when I didn't visit my family or sit at home in a dirty house and read. Sometime I'm gonna go sompleace!

I keep thinking I should do a celebratory re-enactment of the Himself World Dating tour. That would be hysterical. I'd have to get some really big sunglasses, though.

[steamy]

In my budget, my condo gets cleaned every 3rd friday & my shaggy dog goes to the groomer the same day~~It goes under entertainment ;0). It keeps me sane. Otherwise, it would be almost impossible for me to get my school work done here. I can always know that at some point it will get done before it gets too horrible, and it makes the dog feel special! It is all about priorities!

I'd rather walk into my cleaned home, than pay to eat out!

[willowtree]

((((((((((((((zuzu))))))))))))))) Sorry to hear about your breakup, hon. Given all the issues you've posted about, it's most likely the right choice...but I'm sure it doesn't make the pain any better in the short term. Here's wishing you a peaceful holiday season with your daughter.

(((((((((((((ghead))))))))))))) Thinking of you this holiday season as well. Take good care of yourself, and ship me some oyster strew ;-)

Me, I'm getting ready to do a marathon gift wrapping today, and then I'll be done with the exception of some small items. Next weekend will be the cooking spree. Work's been kinda busy lately so I'm glad I've got most of the holiday stuff done. I love internet shopping....

[lizzie]

I'm in my second weekend post SO breakup and doing reasonably well.... I'm going to indulge in self-care and appreciation for all the things I have (and be thankful to reduce the stress that had been in my life for so long that it began to feel "normal").

Yes, folks, for all those who thought I'd never do it... I have done it. I finally looked truthfully at the things that were causing me pain, realized I couldn't change it, decided I couldn't live with it. And that was that.

Who knew it was so simple.....? Of course, the pain is another thing but this, too, shall pass..... I shall now smile.

Good for you, zuzuzu. It does feel awfully good when you stop hitting your head against that brick wall.

Now take all the love and turn it back unto yourself. You are a special person and deserve that kind of attention.

(Zuzuzu)

[zuzuzu]

Thanks lizzie, willow, chero and all. It is funny how many different kinds of emotional pain there are! Right now I have the "something is missing" and I "have a hole through my middle" kind of pain. However, I know that this kind has an end eventually.

It beats the other kind of pain, which is the "I can't accept this"but want to love this man and support him" struggle. That was the never-ending, can't fix it, kind of pain that I had with me for so long. OF course, the lovely moments were mixed in but when you see a character or value that you just don't respect, it isn't something that can be totally forgotten. That pain is pervasive and permanent.

So I still choose this one.

[ghead1]

holidays feel kind of bittersweet this year. Just got the greatest card from my aunt, dad's oldest younger sister. She enclosed a funny story and a copy diary my dad had written about 15 years ago as he was making her a new belt to replace one that had worn out... long story involving a lot of shopping, and Grape Nuts Flakes coupons...

It definitely lifted my spirits.

We just got done shopping for our adopt-a-family. I love doing that. The kids are getting bikes :-) Then mr ghead went to the yamaha shop and bought one of his own gifts. He can never wait until Christmas, I live with a 5'8" 10 year old boy this time of year! He couldn't wait until xmas for a new chain.

willow, hope you guys have a great Christmas... treasure the memories!

[CheroCreek]

I just remembered to tell you, the CDs were shipped early this week, Ghead.

[Tiddly]

Oh ZuZu you enjoy these holidays and realize you have done yourself a huge favor and relish the gift you've given yourself. The hole heals......... trust me.

[Cinnamon Girl]

And Zuzuzu, as my daughter tells me, it's ok to cry. I'm with you on this one.

[2ndWind]

Just got the greatest card from my aunt, dad's oldest younger sister. She enclosed a funny story and a copy diary my dad had written about 15 years ago.... treasure the memories!

It's so hard to get used to someone you care about being gone. Yesterday I attended a memorial service for my 96-year-old next door neighbor who died in November. It was a lovely service with his nieces and nephews (he and his wife didn't have children) recalling memories of their times with him. We laughed till we cried at the stories involving his humorous view of life.

And hang in there, zuzu. It's got to be very hard, especially at this time of year. I'm really impressed that you're able to so aptly describe how different the pain is of being involved with him versus being without him.

[zuzuzu]

2nd, believe me, I have spent many months (years!) trying to figure out what hurt and what to do about it....! It helps me to know that this is a choice I'm making, for the future, and for the quality of my life.
Thank you...

[poolman]

I know you live for my silly stories.

I went out shopping for an hour and returned home. Since it is going to get cold here tonight, I thought I'd go down in the basement and load up the wood stove. Seems like pooldog had the same idea but instead of stoking the fire he placed one round log on the third step so poolman took a rolllercoaster ride to the basement.

[Tiddly]

sure hope you didn't break anything!

[kara.]

Zuzu-I hope you find much peace and joy (a few filtered moments through the pain anyway) this holiday, and know you've given yourself the best gift. You're a brave, strong, and wise woman.

Thinking of you also ghead.

[lexicon]

((zuzu)) Love and and relationships can hurt. Only you know what can and will work for you. 2nding Kara...you're a wise woman.

Which, coimcidemtally ties in with my opinion of what is better than sex? True honest intimacy. Intimacy where you share thoughts, concerns, feelings, fears with real communication. When if true intimacy is missing, we can pretend all we want, even with great sex, won't reward us as much as true intimacy.

[zuzuzu]

lexicon, I know I did have true intimacy with this man. Probably the first time with a man in the course of my lifetime; that's why it hurts so much to let it go. I believe it is very precious and not to be taken for granted.

On the other hand, I observed disrespect and selfishness that I found unacceptable... and couldn't fix it by explaining, asking, etc.

It was terrible to have to make a choice between the wonderful and the awful. However, the awful kind of makes it hard to fully accept the wonderful... the doubts just kept dwelling... and led me to distance myself from him eventually.

I still am having urges to call him.... so I'm posting here instead!!

[ghead1]

I just remembered to tell you, the CDs were shipped early this week, Ghead.


Received Chero! Well-received I should say. Listening to Kamama at work right now.

You should be very proud of LoneWolf... his contributions to the album are awesome.

[CheroCreek]

Thank you so very much, Ghead. Wado Equa!

I'll tell LoneWolf about your comments.

Here's hoping everyone likes the copies of Tali you got for them.

[zuzuzu]

sigh.... I sent former SO a crude email saying that he doesn't deserve a relationship until/unless he stops being a selfish pr**k. I thought I was above such hurtful childish stuff. Ah well... I'm only human but I really need to have more self-control. I guess I'm in the phase after intense sadness.... which is wanting to hurt the other person. I hope this phase passes quickly! I don't like myself much here.

[CheroCreek]

You should have sent him some virtual coal, Zuzuzu. :)

[zuzuzu]

yeah, chero... I have a journal I use to vent everything so that I don't inflict my pain upon others. I just slipped for a moment and that "send" button was just way too easy. Email has its place but it sure makes it hard to honor the boundaries of total separation. I sent another email apologizing and promising NO more emails. Now I must disengage yet again (I was SO good for a whole week) and get back on the path.

[aires24]

I'm in my second weekend post SO breakup and doing reasonably well.... I'm going to indulge in self-care and appreciation for all the things I have (and be thankful to reduce the stress that had been in my life for so long that it began to feel "normal").

Yes, folks, for all those who thought I'd never do it... I have done it. I finally looked truthfully at the things that were causing me pain, realized I couldn't change it, decided I couldn't live with it. And that was that.

Who knew it was so simple.....? Of course, the pain is another thing but this, too, shall pass..... I shall now smile.

Just read this zu. I commend you for taking the time needed to realize what was causing the pain, that you couldn't change it, but you could control how it affected you and made a decision based on that. Reminds me of the Serenity Prayer.

My thoughts are with you......Merry Christmas & Happy New Year.;)

[ghead1]

zuzu, it's all a process. Think of it like a hill. How many years did you spend climbing one side to get where you are now? Going down the other side is very steep if you go down too fast.

You'll be OK.

Chero, I am giving them for Christmas, so no feedback for a week or two, but I already know the answer :) It's not like I would give them to someone who wouldn't be grateful!